Alexis has a theory on D&D posted just today and I have a rejoinder for it below.
D&D is not fun, and its not easy. It's more than entertainment, but it's something just short of or just beyond art, maybe. It's something different than everything else like it, but the theory that it's only a means of scratching one's itch to be unaccountable to anything or anyone doesn't resonate with me. D&D isn't about being an asshole. I liken D&D to the precise sensation one gets when playing in a band.
If I want to hear music, the easy thing to do would be to find my favorite song on the iPod or, god forbid, go dig up a vinyl record or CD and see if either of those players still work. It will sound great, because of course I have awesome taste and of course anything out of my music collection would be great. Most people will do this to hear music.
But instead, some few take the hard road and learn to play guitar and then get their friends to learn instruments or find new friends. These few bust balls learning chords and riffs and eventually have a few decent songs, maybe even originals they've written. At some point, though, whatever the original impetus... girls, money, fame, something to do after school other than huffing glue and jerking off... unless you are the rare, lucky and talented few you realize you're not going to be a professional musician... you're not going to be a world famous artist.
But still, you keep at it and despite a wife and kids, a mortgage payment and a soul-sucking job to pay the bills... BUT STILL, you get together now and then not to play records... you bust out the instruments.
My band won't be as cool, copied and tragically overlooked as the dB's nor as perfect in execution as The Band. We won't warble like Neil Young or kick the fucking door down and steal your girlfriend like The Replacements. But we will motherfucking rock it just the same; beer-bellies, bald-spots and all.
D&D is garage rock.